Monday, May 08, 2006

The single girl picture...


This photo is from the mid sixties I believe. It is of my mother as a single working woman at NASA in Cleveland, Ohio. She is smiling because she knows my dad and I are just a few short years away from further enriching her life (okay, I made that part up!). Actually until about the late 1990's I didn't have any photo's of her up around our house. It was too painful actually. I would have rather blocked her out even though I didn't consciously say that. It was not until I met up with a man named Jim through a high school classmates type site that God began a healing in me. I used to post random things on the Elyria High School site on classmates back then and one time I posted something about the auto accident at a certain site and did anyone happen to know about it. It was a long shot. But God is into long shots apparently because Jim not only remembered it but he was there. So we emailed back and forth. Hubby DLR was amazed that Jim was there and encouraged all of us to meet. SO we did. I came to Elyria and met him and his wife. He not only made us feel right at home but as a special added touch he happened to pick up a dozen of my favorite pink icing cookies of mine and my mother's favorite bakery in town. The bakery is now defunct which is a real bummer!
Anyhow, Jim had gone into the hardware store that morning and heard the accident. Being a paramedic/emt he ran out to assist. Things I never knew and worried about he cleared up. I wondered for years if my mother had a chance to make her peace or speak to God. Did she ask about me? He also stunned DLR and I both with a coat that he still had that he had been wearing that day. When he brought it out I was speechless. The depth of my emotions were bottomless when he proceeded to show me the tiny holes he incurred in this brown winter coat from reaching through the glass to reach me. Amazing. So, friends, God didn't just satisfy my questions he provided the closure I had been longing for by bringing Jim into my life. For Jim's willingness to come forward I am forever grateful. He and his wife are very special people to our family to say the least! After this episode I felt like something became unhinged in me. In a good way. I was able to see my home differently when I came home. I began to search for pictures of my mother and include her in our lives, not hide her away. And to this day...the photo's still stand.

4 comments:

TL said...

I love the photographs you've been posting. The motif works. I should try it myself. I hid my Mother's stuff away for awhile too, but soon I wanted to see her again and I pulled everything out. Now, I love finding pics of her amongst the old family albums. She smiled a lot back in the days and it makes me happy to see that she did indeed have a bit of a happy life.

I think your Mom looks quite lovely and sophisticated. And she resembles Geena Davis as Commander in Chief! Woot!!

Diary of a motherless daughter said...

Thank you so much for posting! She was so beautiful to me! (Although I do get a lot of comments regarding those awful "cat glasses"

TL said...

OMG! The Cat Glassses are awesome! Your Mom would so be stylin' if ya'll lived in LA!

Izzy said...

I still can't put my mother's photo out. It's just too much. To see it every day means I would have to think of her and about what I don't have...every day.

That's amazing that the paramedic was able to give you some details about the accident and maybe some peace. I wondered for years about the specifics of my mother's car accident. I just try not to think about it anymore since I'll never have the answers.